Review: Wands of Lust Co Aphrodite

Sex toys are a unique product in that, as something that is generally seen as risqué and not socially acceptable, people tend to find ways to categorise them so that they become acceptable. It means that rather than just being seen as a plain old vibrator or dildo, with nothing to offer but pleasure (so scary), alternative uses are found that can help take some of that edge off and make them more approachable. There are the geeks and fantasy lovers, who create toys based around pop culture for the ultimate roleplay experience, the artists and design lovers who see toys more like sculptures to be admired, and the nerds and tech lovers who want to innovate sex by connecting toys to our smartphones. But the type I want to talk about today is the wellness and spirituality lovers, who see sex toys as a way to deeply connect with your body and soul. And no product is more popular with this crowd than the iconic rose quartz wand. 

Product Description

The double ended rose quartz wand is the star of the sexual wellness movement that has been occuring over the last few years, and bestseller of the many crystal shops that have popped up alongside it. I’ve wanted one for a long time, but between their price and the fact that they’re regularly stocked by small businesses, it just hasn’t happened. That is, until my blog sponsor Wands of Lust Co offered to send out their Aphrodite for review, which is their take on this classic dildo. Made of 100% rose quartz, the toy is named after the Greek goddess of sexual love and desire, and by targeting the heart chakra, use of this toy should attract love and contentment, and will not only serve you physically, but spiritually too, awakening a deep feeling of self-love and re-energising the soul. Being crystal, it is fairly heavy at 430g, and cold to the touch as well, although its ability to retain heat does make it perfect for temperature play. Having two sides then not only gives you more options, but ensures it will suit your preferences, with the smaller end being around 2.2cm / 0.87″ in diameter, and the larger end being around 3.8cm / 1.5″. And while these might seem thin, the completely firm crystal will make them feel girthier than they are, plus the middle of the toy goes up to a maximum diameter of 4.1cm / 1.6″ (which is why they also stock a Aphrodite Jnr if that sounds more your style). A smooth polish then helps with insertion, and with a length of just 17cm / 6.7″ things are kept quite shallow. My particular wand looks a lot lighter than the pictures on Wands of Lust Co’s website, being just a touch of pink, although it still has many of the visual details that make this material so impressive, with various crystallized elements within its semi-transparent body. Plus, light also travels through it so that it can look different depending on where it is, which may account for the colour discrepancy. The only real downside is that a few small scratches are present on my copy, which feature a slight amount of yellowing around them, which is something I will need to keep an eye on. Finally, it’s also worth mentioning that the Aphrodite is not anal-safe, as it has no base.

The Brand

Opening late 2021, Wands of Lust Co is a small sydney-based business by Julie Mlinaric, who, after suffering from chronic vaginismus, found relief after using crystal yoni eggs. She now aims to help others by using crystals for pleasure and healing, and to share her own success at elevating her sexual experiences. Specialising in crystals, sex toys, candles, and more, Julie puts a particular emphasis on how her products can influence your chakras and energies, and provides helpful information on her product listings and blog. Plus, for those who aren’t sure where to start, she offers a free quiz which tells you which crystal to choose based on your goals and star sign. In addition, Wands of Lust Co are also committed to offering sustainable, discreet packaging, and while they ship internationally, delivery within Australia is free on orders over $150 AUD.

Packaging

My order for the Aphrodite was placed with Wands of Lust Co on the 27th of July and I recieved it on the 2nd of August. The box was quite discreet, with no mention of the sender or what was inside, however a large sticker on it did feature pictures of crystals (but nothing to suggest it’s NSFW). Opening this up, I then found a beautiful interior, with branded tissue paper and a cute handwritten sticker with my name on it. Containing plenty of packaging protection to ensure everything arrived safely, the toy itself was then wonderfully gift wrapped, complete with an adorable bow that made me feel like I was opening a Christmas present. In addition to the Aphrodite, I also received a branded high-quality storage bag, alongside a thank you card offering a 10% discount and an additional crystal to match. Overall, I was very happy with all of this, with it feeling special and personalised. Plus, there was no plastic at all and the box and packaging protection were all recyclable (and seemed to be mostly recycled materials in the first place), which is great to see and really proves Wands of Lust Co’s commitment to sustainability.

My Experience

Since the Wands of Lust Co Aphrodite is very cold when you first start handling it (especially since it’s winter here), I like to start by heating it under some warm water. Then, using the smaller end first, it inserts quite easily with a small amount of lubricant, and the smooth surface helps me adjust to the hard, tapered shaft. Since this end is quite pointed, I do then need to be careful to not thrust it too hard, and while I can get a little G-Spot stimulation from it, this isn’t much since it is so straight. Additionally, I do also need to keep in mind that if I thrust too deep, not only will my hand get very messy, but it’ll make the toy much more difficult to hold, so keeping thrusts quite shallow is recommended. Not to mention that since most of the weight is at the larger end of the toy, I also need to ensure I am holding it at all times, otherwise it will fall out. Due to all this, whilst I do enjoy using the smaller end, I have actually found myself surprisingly more drawn to the larger side. Inserting it (which can only be done after I’ve warmed up with the smaller end) almost feels like I am using a vaginal plug, as the toy’s weight means that it just sinks down inside of me for a 100% hands-free experience. I can then either leave it there to do its thing alongside another toy, or pull it back out to thrust with (which, admittedly, is also quite messy, but worth it), and with the increased girth it also allows for much more G-Spot pleasure. Plus, another benefit to this is that if I allow it to almost insert fully, it basically takes up no room, meaning I can use products such as wand massagers and suction toys that don’t usually work alongside dildos or plugs due to their bases being in the way. And as you can imagine, this has led to some almighty orgasms with the Aphrodite, cementing itself as a stand-out amongst my toy box.

Cleaning & Care

Cleaning the Wands of Lust Co Aphrodite is easy since it is waterproof, just make sure to place it down gently when putting it in ceramic sinks or baths. Using a mild soap, wash the toy before rinsing and leaving to air dry, and after this you may place it into the storage bag it came with. Wands of Lust Co also recommend cleansing your crystal every now and then to get rid of any unwanted energy, and this can be done through methods such as smudging it with sage or letting it bathe under the moonlight of a full moon. Never place your crystal under boiling water, as it may force it to crack, and if any cracks ever do occur then discontinue use.

Final Thoughts

I adore testing uncommon sex toy materials. So far I’ve tried wood, glass, metal, ceramic, and stone, but this is my very first crystal toy, and it’s something I’ve been eager to get my hands on for years now. The surprise here though, is that whilst these unusual materials are fun, usually they are the main attraction rather than the toy itself being hugely pleasurable. But the Wands of Lust Co Aphrodite breaks this stereotype, because not only was the rose quartz itself and all of its healing properties exciting to use, but it felt damn good too. The real genius of it was in its double-ended shape, with both ends complementing each other so well that rather than being two separate elements, they instead worked together as a cohesive whole. For example, while I preferred the hands-free, plug-like nature of the larger end, I would have never been able to adequately warm up to it without its smaller companion, and it was only with the thinness of this alternate side that I was able to have the freedom to use whatever I wanted on my clitoris, which was the real cincher. With this in mind, I can definitely see why the Aphrodite is such an icon, and I’m so glad Wands of Lust Co were able to share this experience with me. So, for anyone wanting a crystal toy, or if you’re just looking for a luxury dildo that doesn’t hold back on the pleasure, make sure to give this a go.

You can get the Aphrodite directly from Wands of Lust Co for just $189 AUD / $128 USD, plus use my code GRACE to get 20% OFF your total order!

This post was sponsored by Wands of Lust Co, but as always, all opinions are my own.